Having a good sex life is extremely important to your own emotional health and the health of your marriage. But numerous things can get in the way. Pregnancy and young children leave you tired, sleepless and with a little person pulling on you day and night. This is hardly conducive to being in the mood. Yet it is exactly this stressful time that requires you find ways to connect and be intimate with your partner. In addition, later in marriage when you grow tired of the same old thing and feel in a rut is another time that sex often suffers. Empty nest is a peak time for divorce and lack of any sexual enjoyment is a big reason that many couples divorce. Any way you look at it, the need to work on and maintain a good sexual life requires thought and action.
What was once about just the two of you — fun, spontaneity, impulsivity, sex whenever you felt like it, juggling only each other’s schedules — now becomes much more complicated. Many couples find it difficult enough to negotiate between just the two of them let alone when they have a third, fourth or fifth person whose needs must be met.
Is it okay for you or your partner to “check out” another person?