Most women I see tell me they are happy that they found someone special and are married because they would not want to be alone. What’s more curious, however, is how many women tell me that they really feel lonely IN their marriage. As hard as it is to feel lonely when you have no significant other, it is even more emotionally difficult when you do have a partner and you feel lonely anyway. When you are single, you at least have the fantasy that one day you’ll meet someone and not be lonely. But when you are married, your loneliness feels infinite and hopeless. You wonder, is it me, is it him or is it us? Read the rest of this entry »
Statistics (on how many men are cheating) are hard to come by, because, let’s face it, most men do not want to come clean on this subject. However, figures range from 24% to as much as 60%. Any way you cut it, many men are straying from monogamy.
What are the reasons that men do cheat? Read the rest of this entry »
Many couples fight about money—it is the number-one source of arguing in the best of times. But now, in some of the worst financial times, money has become an even greater stress on couples. Read the rest of this entry »
Marriage is hard, yet rewarding. It takes a lot of work to maintain a good marriage. Adding children into the equation adds even more complexity and can make it more stressful. And when the children are his and you are their stepmother, you now you have a real tightrope to walk. The wicked stepmother is infamous for a reason. No matter how much the kids like you or how wonderful you are you still REPRESENT the hard reality that they cannot live with their mom and dad together. Read the rest of this entry »
Having a good sex life is extremely important to your own emotional health and the health of your marriage. But numerous things can get in the way. Pregnancy and young children leave you tired, sleepless and with a little person pulling on you day and night. This is hardly conducive to being in the mood. Yet it is exactly this stressful time that requires you find ways to connect and be intimate with your partner. In addition, later in marriage when you grow tired of the same old thing and feel in a rut is another time that sex often suffers. Empty nest is a peak time for divorce and lack of any sexual enjoyment is a big reason that many couples divorce. Any way you look at it, the need to work on and maintain a good sexual life requires thought and action.
What was once about just the two of you — fun, spontaneity, impulsivity, sex whenever you felt like it, juggling only each other’s schedules — now becomes much more complicated. Many couples find it difficult enough to negotiate between just the two of them let alone when they have a third, fourth or fifth person whose needs must be met.
Are you in love with a “Mamma’s Boy?” Being number two in your relationship is a tough spot and bound to lead to real trouble.