The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time surrounded by family and loving feelings. But what happens when someone you loved that was always part of your holiday is gone? Grieving is difficult enough, but the holidays tend to make the absence feel worse. In addition, the disparity between the happy holiday feelings others are having and the mourning you are feeling can make you feel really removed from the whole holiday spirit. Read the rest of this entry »
The holidays are centered around being together with family—sharing time and a meal together. Because it is the family day of the year, when there are estranged family members involved, you tend to feel the hurt and the loss more acutely. Similarly, when there is family for whom you have tremendous anger and hostility, coming together for the holiday can be excruciatingly stressful. Read the rest of this entry »
It is the day after the Thanksgiving weekend and many of you are basking in the glow of having been with close family and friends. Also many of you are breathing for the first day in the last 4 or 5 after a marathon of cooking, hostessing, cleaning and dealing with family politics of the highest order.
Some may even be dealing with dread as they ponder the upcoming December holidays because there was personal tension, criticism and perhaps even a fight at Thanksgiving. When a lot of family comes together with high expectations, you can be sure there will be some tension and arguing. Read the rest of this entry »