Weight Gain and Marriage

January 31, 2010

I hear often from both men and women who say that they have abandoned their sex lives as a result of the loss of attraction to a mate who has gained significant amounts of weight. Weight gain can, in certain instances, be a result of a medical problem, but more often than not it is an emotional or psychological issue that keeps a person unable to either diet or exercise enough to keep weight off.

The issue of attraction to one’s partner is very complicated and rarely is it simply a reaction only to weight gain. Read the rest of this entry »


Emotional Eating

January 10, 2010

Behind every eater is an emotional human being. We are programmed to want food and to be satisfied by food. Food is also central to our upbringing, and therefore represents different things to each individual depending on the way their parents dealt with eating and particular foods: Food as love, food as reward, food as punishment.

Similarly, we all have an emotionally charged meaning to the way we view our bodies. How we view ourselves if we are overweight, underweight, like what we see, or get attention from others because of our bodies:  Body as lovable, sexual, vulnerable, strong. Combined, these make eating and dieting have a huge emotional component driving all the behaviors.

The typical emotional stories driving difficulties with losing weight are:

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The Emotional Side of Weight Loss

November 18, 2009

In my opinion and experience, one dramatic reason it is so difficult for people to lose weight and maintain it is that there is always an emotional component to weight loss and maintenance. Yet this aspect is rarely addressed and most people are not aware of their own emotional roadblocks.

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