The most common sex problems for men are: Erectile dysfunction, a sexual desire that is much higher or much lower than your wife’s, and premature ejaculation. These issues are all treatable, but most couples never get help because they are so uncomfortable about the issue that they do not discuss it and do not seek help.
Erectile dysfunction may be the first symptom for a medical problem (like diabetes, or cardiovascular disease) and therefore new ED should prompt a visit to the doctor for a check up and a testosterone level check (another less likely but possible culprit in ED). Many men feel so ashamed of the ED that they definitely do not want to go to the doctor. Talking to your husband about the possibility that it is a medical issue, and that you would even like to go with him to the doctor often really helps.
Desire differences are extremely common. There are many techniques to raise desire in the lower desire partner, again, if you talk about it.
Premature ejaculation affects many men and can be treated with using a technique called the “Stop-Start Method“. Condoms often help by reducing stimulation and even medication temporarily can rectify the problem.
But no help can occur when , to avoid the conversation, both people pull toward their own side of the bed and avoid having sex altogether. This is a common though unfortunate occurrence.